When two people are going through a divorce, it can be hard to keep things rational. Where there was once love there’s now contention and poor communication, which can be hard to accept. As a result, most divorces are more of a conflict than a peaceful parting of ways.
However, the more conflict that you go through, the higher your legal fees will be and the longer the experience will be drawn out.
If you’re going through the process of divorce, then it’s in your best interest to make it as easy as possible. Here are some of the biggest mistakes to avoid while going through the process.
Bad Mouthing Each Other In Front Of The Kids
It’s easy to understand why you’re angry. You’re convinced that it was all the other person’s fault and if they had only done this and that then things wouldn’t be as bad as they are, right? However, it’s important not to use your kids as a sounding board for your feelings.
Even though your anger may seem perfectly justifiable to you, it has nothing to do with your children. They aren’t a part of this battle and dragging them into it only forces them to choose sides. Making your children feel like they have to identify with your anger and pain may cause a strained relationship between them and the other parent, and even wit you eventually.
If you must talk to someone about how you’re feeling during the divorce, talk to a friend or family member. If you talk about your ex within your children’s hearing range, be sure to use methods which ensure they don’t know what you’re talking about.
Dating Too Quickly
You may be feeling hurt and disappointed that your dreams of an everlasting love came to a halt. Even though you once loved each other dearly now, it’s as if you’re strangers. Therefore, it’s a typical reaction to dive quickly into the dating scene again. Your feelings of failure may leave you feeling extra motivated to go out there and make a new relationship work to prove that it can be done.
However, if you haven’t worked through your emotions yet and gone through the process of accepting your marriage has ended, you may be getting yourself and someone else into trouble. Try to take it slow and get into a relationship when you feel a genuine connection.
Airing Your Dirty Laundry Online
Social media sharing may seem innocent, especially when you need somewhere to express your feelings. However, all you’re doing is dragging others into your problems.
Not only is it in bad taste to air your dirty laundry in public, but it may even be used against you in court later. You’re better off keeping your feelings off the internet for now!